BONDING WITH YOUR KIDS

There is no love like fatherly love. A kind of love that comforts and assures one of security and confidence. Love that drives you to achieve your goals because you have the full backing of someone somewhere.

Stories have been told of female children who can hold their own in public against bullies or having assurances that no one can molest them in anyway. The father stands as a wall, shield and protection against external forces for the children.

Statistics has shown that children who do not experience  that fatherly love tend to  be never-do-wells. Such children in most cases are easily led astray by their peers, give in to societal pressure and constitute a nuisance to the society.

This does not mean mothers do not play a key role in the lives of their children in the absence of the fathers, but as we all know, mothers are more often than not are to complement the man’s efforts. They are soft in nature, emotional and easily give in to the demands (a times  unreasonable) of the children.

ATTACHING YOURSELF TO YOUR CHILDREN

Pick them from school

This singular act can endear your children to you for life. You need to see the joy in my children’s faces whenever I surprise them at school to pick them up. At that moment, they happily introduce you to all their classmates, ’this is my daddy’, spill everything that happened in school, that bully in their class, the teacher who use the cane at the slightest provocation, how they got all their Math work right etc.

Their confidence is built and the next time someone bullies them, they readily say ‘I will tell my daddy’. A certain level of confidence oozes around them.

Assist with their homework

Another way to attach yourself to your children is by assisting them with their assignments. This allows you judge their mental state and their progress academically. You can also learn how good their teachers have been while going through their books. A teacher is as good as what he/she has taught the students.

Take them away from academics

Try taking them out at least twice in a month to eateries, amusement parks, to see a movie, anywhere nice well away from school activities. Trust me they will tell you what things you don’t  know i.e. how the nanny maltreated them etc. One should not be too busy for the kids.

Give yourself a reason to want to close from work and head home immediately and not to go ‘hanging out with the boys’. The “boys’ won’t always be there for you, but your family will.

Spoil them, indulge them

There is that toy, cloth, or game that your child has been craving. Why not buy it for him/her. It is their time , they can only be kids this one time. Indulging them once in a while allows them free access to you, share their thoughts with you, and bond with you.